But if you had nurtured a predisposition to not have such a notion in the very depths of your heart, nothing will ever make you change your thoughts. This is because the heart rules one’s thinking.
Scientist/theologian Emanuel Swedenborg observed that every person whose spirit entered the spiritual world would receive, from angels, profound lessons about God’s heaven and be allowed to view all the facts. Still, many individuals continue to reject what they are told (and even see there) because their hearts are opposed to such things—preferring that their self-centeredness remain the focus of all things. (See Apocalypse Explained 242c .)
People only see what they are willing to believe.
So many make an exit to a lower realm that best expresses the self-promoting aspects of their hearts. Therefore, none of their ideas are really changed when they leave the earth!
If you hold off genuine goodness and mutual love until you are told to, you are not really seeking those qualities in yourself.
Now is the time to look into and change your heart!